My blog title “The Search,” comes out of interest in what people are looking for. What is it you are looking for in life? I hear a lot of, “I’ll be happy when I get that job,” or “I’ll be happen when I get that promotion,” or “I can’t wait for vacation,” or “I can’t wait to be in love.” When love happens, “I can’t wait for marriage,” and when the promotion happens, “I can’t wait for some free time.” You get the drift.
There seems to be a lot of steps approaching the door to HAPPINESS and the door seems to move further away with each advanced step. HAPPINESS has hoodwinked us all! No, we have fooled ourselves with our own trickery.
“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.” – Lao Tzu
Instead of mapping out life with checkpoints to hit, happiness can be found right now in the present. You can live life with expectations, but those expectations will inevitably fail you by not living up to what your imagination had in store and how they actually play out in reality. Realities a bitch when it comes up against the sparkly fairy tale you tell yourself is in store in the distant future. Promises you make yourself about being happy when certain things happen…
Stop worrying about arriving somewhere. Perhaps your present will enfold as a sparkly fairy tale when you choose to be happy NOW. This does not mean do not dream, and do not have goals. But how many times a day does your ego get in the way of having gratitude for what you have now? Say yes to the present, feel it, breathe through it, and move from there. I’m not saying it’s easy. BUT a journey towards being happy now makes more sense than a journey towards something you think will make you happy in the long run. The later sounds like a crap gamble, and one that will leave you feeling unlucky.
Half the time we search for something, but maybe we don’t know what we’re searching for. Maybe we are looking for happiness in all the wrong places.
“One cannot find peace in work or in pleasure, in the world or in a convent, but only in one’s soul.” – Somerset Maugham